2019-05-28 15:04 供稿單位: 新航道
“Doing which activity do you think can help you strengthen the friendship between you and your friend?”
1、having a good time together with your friend；【大家在一起時，開心的那種感受】
2、solving your friend's problem with him or her.【解決朋友的毛病（不是困難）】
簡潔快速的開頭【永遠先說自己拋棄的那個選項】It may be thought that a true friendship should be able to endure one friend’s criticism to the other. It is also thought that friends should have a good time together. I am prone to have a friendship in which friends enjoy a pleasant time together, and I believe thepleasure strengthens the relationship.
【需要解釋的是：為什么大家在一起時感到開心的這種感受可以加強友誼：】 When people seek friends, they seek companions, and when a friendship is wanted, company is wanted. No one would deny that this is an experience of pursuing happiness. Since happiness is the goal, what strengthens the relationship is that people feeldelighted when they are together. 【經典結構，道理兩三句后例證開始】【注意內容的progression 和coherence：先說出“開心”】 For example, I have a ten-year friendship in which the friend and I are the mutual source of joy. 【再討論“開心”背后是什么】 Behind the joy is our mutual approval. She may have some shortcomings, but I have never been bothered. Meanwhile, she shows greattolerance to my flaws. 【因為“開心”背后的因素——“認可”——是友誼延續和加強的“秘訣”】 Since the joy indicates that we accept each other and we are aware of the mutual fondness, 【所以“開心”可以增進友誼】the friendship has been sustained and the intimacy has been growing.
【然后，形成“對比”：】 By contrast, before a friend’s flaw needs to be corrected, it must be the case that the other cannot stand the flaw. Since the friend cannot be accepted for who he or she is, the flaw will be a bug that constantly bothers the other. This isthe opposite of a true friendship, and the relationship, which isvulnerable to the intolerance, will soon capsize.
【然后，另有一點，形成補充：】 In addition, friendship may be a rather simple idea. When two individuals are happy with other each’s company, they can be friends. The logic that ensues is therefore simple: the more delightful the time the two spend together, the stronger the friendship is. 【然后，同樣需要“對比”：】 As for the kindhearted correction, that may be useful in a different level of relationship, such as kinship, teacher-student relationships, or employer-employee relationship, and is not desired in a friendship.
At this point, it may be fair to conclude that a solid friendship is built on the simple happiness. Happiness is the key, even when the relationship needs to be firmer. Old-timers may feel obligated to tell a friend where the friend is wrong; however, their righteousness may be selfishness in nature or go too far.